Oh crap. Crap, crap, crap, crap crap crap!
After waiting for a week for my response, I sent another email today.
Subject FW: Hey
Did you get my email?
Perhaps you were a bit freaked out? I know I would have been if I'd got an
email like that! Sorry if that's the case.
If it helps, I have no idea whether you would meet a guy for a drink.
Frankly, you appear straight. I approached you merely because I thought you
were attractive and a nice guy. I'm a young guy in (hopefully!) the same
situation. I am certainly not openly into other guys - the anonymous email
should tell you that.
Anyway, before I tie myself into any more knots with this awkward approach,
let me know or tell me if the approach is too concerning to you / you're
not interested. (And feel free to continue this conversation from a non-YYY
The original email:
Date: Fri, 25 Apr 2008 14:14:45 +0200
This is a bit of a strange email.
I work with at you at YYY but don't really know you. You seem like a nice
and attractive guy.
Thing is I'm another guy. Hopefully also nice and attractive. Pretty
normal bloke really.
Would you meet another guy for a drink?
I wanted to keep this anonymous until I'd got the potentially
embarrassing introduction out the way.
To which I got the response:
Yes, I was a bit freaked out, you never know if there are idiots out there
who would think sending something like this would be funny, you seem
Unfortunately I am straight and recently got engaged so wont be taking you
up on your offer.
Best of luck on finding someone special.
So this anonymous email approach is quicker and safer than spending ages getting acquainted with someone hot and then finding out they're definitely unavailable.
But how I wish he was. I really am beginning to be concerned at my attraction to unavailable straight guys.